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love is not blind.


If there’s one thing that I’ve can say I’ve learned from experience in my almost 5 months of marriage, it could be summed up by the above. Love is definitely NOT blind.

I can be a real monger sometimes when it comes to being crabby and irritable. Even last night, after an afternoon full of nine smiling children between age three and age eight running around my house, when I finally got a chance to sit down, instantly, my tired husband, worn out five year old, and ultra-loving-but-with-no-regards-to-personal-boundaries puppy instantly all fell on me… literally. Everyone wanted a piece of me to lay on or lick (that’s mostly for the dog, mostly) and I just couldn’t take it. I threw my arms up and pushed everyone away. I was exhausted and wanted to lay on someone and I was so upset that no one considered how I might feel after such a long day. I definitely could have been nicer about it, not to mention much less selfish (in my quest to be considered, I never considered the needs of my family). But still, when my husband came to bed last night, he told me how much he loved me and how beautiful he believes me to be.

He does not just look the other way and pretend my nasty irritableness and crabby attitude didn’t exist. He knew it was there. He witnessed and was potentially even scorned by the fact that I wouldn’t allow him to lean on me – but still, he chose to love me. His love isn’t blind, but rather his love chooses to see me for who I am, the good and the bad, and love me for it and despite it all.

And it is up to me to reciprocate that love for him. We love, flaws and all. Not blindly, but knowing full-well what is wrong with each of us, but making our love a CHOICE. Every day.

And what this is showing me is that this is the way God looks at relationship with us, too. Jesus did not love us blindly. He knew every ugly thing we possessed before we did, before we existed and He loves us anyway.

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8

A friend from church spoke before worship a few Sundays ago, commenting on these lyrics from The Stand by Hillsong :
You stood before creation | Eternity in your hand | You spoke the earth into motion
And to summarize the point he made, essentially, this painted a picture for him; God stood before His to-be creation and saw it all play out. He held eternity in His hand, and knew in that moment that His creation would fall to sin, He’d send His Son to die, and everything therein. He saw it all. And this friend described just imagining God take this breath – and He spoke it into motion anyway.

God knew. He knew it would fall. In that moment, standing before creation and holding eternity, He saw all of the ugly and nasty and sinfulness of us and He spoke it all into motion. His love for us wasn’t blind; He chose to love us in that moment anyway. God’s love is not blind, it sees our sin, but chooses to see Jesus’ righteous sacrifice as ransom for it. Jesus didn’t pull the wool over His Father’s eyes so that God was somehow naïve to our shortcomings and failures. Jesus loved open-eyed and open-hearted enough to die for our ransom, and God loves in the same way to choose to see the sinless offering of Christ, His Son for each of us. Not out of obligation, but out of choice.

“I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more.” Isaiah 43:25

“For I will be merciful to their iniquities, and I will remember their sins no more.” Hebrews 8:12

For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is His lovingkindness toward those who fear Him. As far as the east is from the west, so far has He removed our transgression from us.” Psalm 103:11-12

(In the above scriptures, does God imply that He was in anyway obligated to us or that anyone other than Himself made Him love us, which brought upon His forgiveness of our sins. Even the wording that states He will “remember {our} sins no more” implies that they were known at one point. Blotting them out shows that they are there, but He will replace them with something else, which is Jesus.)

“…just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give His life as ransom for many.” Matthew 20:28

“For there is one God, and one mediator also between God and men, the man Christ Jesus, who gave Himself as a ransom for all, the testimony given at the proper time.” 1 Timothy 2:6

“For this is how God loved the world: He gave His one and only Son, so that everyone
who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life. God sent His Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through Him.”
John 3:16-17

(image by: @vrsly)

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